It’s 16th Jan 2018.
Today morning, I was going to talk about my opinion on relationships. Last night I wrote a post about marriage.
But I’m one person. I have flaws. Even if I stated things logically, people are bound to think differently.
So, today I’m going to quote directly from Srimad Bhagavatam.
Now, you may ask, why would you believe in some ancient scriptures written by some man?
You are asking for too much information. If I have to type out everything, my fingers would get tired. I had to speak, it’d take a series of lectures to explain everything in detail.
I have considered vlogging in the past. I could do a video series on this topic. But I’m not comfortable talking to the camera. I don’t have a good camera either.
I’m going to describe the qualities of men and women as predicted by the scriptures thousands of years ago. Everything is stated logically. You can observe the live specimen around you and check for yourself.
Wealth alone will be considered the sign of a man’s good birth, proper behavior and fine qualities.
Men and women will live together merely because of superficial attraction.
Womanliness and manliness will ne judged according to one’s expertise in sex.
Marriage will be arranged simply by verbal agreement.
Beauty will be thought to depend on one’s hairstyle.
He who can maintain a family will be regarded as an expert man.
Family ties will extend no further than the immediate bonds of marriage.
Because of the bad qualities of the age of Kali, human beings will become shortsighted, unfortunate, gluttonous, lustful and poverty-stricken. The women, becoming unchaste, will freely wander from one man to the next.
Women will become much smaller in size, and they will eat too much, have more children than they can properly take care of, and lose all shyness. They will always speak harshly and will exhibit the qualities of thievery, deceit and unrestrained audacity.
In Kali-yuga men will be wretched and controlled by women. They will reject fathers, brothers, other relatives and friends and will instead associate with the sisters and brothers of their wives. Thus their conception of friendship will be based exclusively on sexual ties.
Men will no longer protect their elderly parents, their children or their respectable wives. Thoroughly degraded, they will care only to satisfy their own bellies and genitals.
In the 9th Canto of Srimad Bhagavatam, there’s a story of a King falling in love with a celestial goddess. (Urvasi is a dancer in the palace of Indra, the King of heaven. She is said to be the most beautiful apsara in Heaven.)
Learn from it.
Thereafter, from Budha, through the womb of Ila, a son was born named Pururava, who was described in the beginning of the Ninth Canto. When his beauty, personal qualities, magnanimity, behavior, wealth and power were described by Narada in the court of Lord lndra, the celestial woman Urvasi was attracted to him. Pierced by the arrow of Cupid, she thus approached him.
Having been cursed by Mitra and Varuna, the celestial woman
Urvasi had acquired the habits of a human being. Therefore, upon
seeing Pururava, the best of males, whose beauty resembled that
of Cupid, she controlled herself and then approached him. When
King Pururava saw Urvasi, his eyes became jubilant in the ecstasy
of joy, and the hairs on his body stood on end. With mild, pleasing
words, he spoke to her as follows.
King Pururava said: 0 most beautiful woman, you are welcome.
Please sit here and tell me what I can do for you. You may enjoy
with me as long as you desire. Let us pass our life happily in a
Urvasi replied: 0 most handsome man, who is the woman whose
mind and sight would not be attracted by you? If a woman takes
shelter of your chest, she cannot refuse to enjoy with you in a
My dear King Pururava, please give protection to these two
lambs, who have fallen down with me. Although I belong to the
heavenly planets and you belong to earth, I shall certainly enjoy
sexual union with you. I have no objection to accepting you as my
husband, for you are superior in every respect.
Urvasi said: "My dear hero, only preparations made in ghee
[clarified butter] will be my eatables, and I shall not want to see
you naked at any time, except at the time of sexual intercourse."
The great-minded King Pururava accepted these proposals.
Pururava replied: 0 beautiful one, your beauty is wonderful
and your gestures are also wonderful. Indeed, you are attractive to
all human society. Therefore, since you have come of your own accord
from the heavenly planets, who on earth would not agree to
serve a demigoddess such as you.
Sukadeva Gosvami continued: The best of human beings,
Pururava, began freely enjoying the company of Urvasi, who
engaged in sexual activities with him in many celestial places, such
as Caitraratha and Nandana-kanana, where the demigods enjoy.
Urvasi’s body was as fragrant as the saffron of a lotus. Being
enlivened by the fragrance of her face and body, Pururava enjoyed
her company for many days with great jubilation.
Not seeing Urvasi in his assembly, the King of heaven, Lord
lndra, said, “Without Urvasi my assembly is no longer beautiful.”
Considering this, he requested the Gandharvas to bring her back
to his heavenly planet.
Thus the Gandharvas came to earth, and at midnight, when
everything was dark, they appeared in the house of Pururava and
stole the two lambs entrusted to the King by his wife, Urvasi.
Urvasi treated the two lambs like her own sons. Therefore, when
they were being taken by the Gandharvas and began crying, Urvasi
heard them and rebuked her husband. “Now I am being killed,”
she said, "under the protection of an unworthy husband, who is a
coward and a eunuch although he thinks himself a great hero.
"Because I depended on him, the plunderers have deprived me
of my two sons the lambs, and therefore I am now lost. My husband
lies down at night in fear, exactly like a woman, although he
appears to he a man during the day."
Pururava, stricken by the sharp words of Urvasi like an elephant
struck by its driver’s pointed rod, became very angry. Not even
dressing himself properly, he took a sword in hand and went out
naked into the night to follow the Gandharvas who had stolen the
After giving up the two lambs, the Gandharvas shone brightly
like lightning, thus illuminating the house of Pururava. Urvasi
then saw her husband returning with the lambs in hand, hut he
was naked, and therefore she left.
No longer seeing Urvasi on his bed, Pururava was most
aggrieved. Because of his great attraction for her, he was
very much disturbed. Thus, lamenting, he began traveling about the earth
like a madman.
Once during his travels all over the world, Pururava saw Urvasi,
accompanied by five companions, on the hank of the Sarasvati at
Kuruksetra. With jubilation in his face, he then spoke to her in
sweet words as follows.
0 my dear wife, 0 most cruel one, kindly stay, kindly stay. I
know that I have never made you happy until now, hut you should
not give me up for that reason. This is not proper for you. Even if
you have decided to give up my company, let us nonetheless talk
for some time.
0 goddess, now that you have refused me, my beautiful body
will fall down here, and because it is unsuitable for your pleasure,
it will he eaten by foxes and vultures.
Urvasi said: "My dear King, you are a man, a hero. Don’t he impatient
and give up your life. Be sober and don’t allow the senses to
overcome you like foxes. Don’t let the foxes eat you. In other
words, you should not he controlled by your senses. Rather, you
should know that the heart of a woman is like that of a fox. There
is no use making friendship with women.
"Women as a class are merciless and cunning. They cannot tolerate
even a slight offense. For their own pleasure they can do anything
irreligious, and therefore they do not fear killing even a
faithful husband or brother.
"Women are very easily seduced by men. Therefore, polluted
women give up the friendship of a man who is their well-wisher
and establish false friendship among fools. Indeed, they seek
newer and newer friends, one after another.
"0 my dear King, you will be able to enjoy with me as my husband
at the end of every year, for one night only. In this way you
will have other children, one after another."
Understanding that Urvasi was pregnant, Pururava returned to
his palace. At the end of the year, there at Kuruksetra, he again
obtained the association of Urva8i, who was then the mother of a
Having regained Urvasi at the end of the year, King Pururava
was most jubilant, and he enjoyed her company in sex for one
night. But then he was very sorry at the thought of separation
from her, so Urvasi spoke to him as follows.
Urvasi said: "My dear King, seek shelter of the Gandharvas, for
they will be able to deliver me to you again." In accordance with
these words, the King satisfied the Gandharvas by prayers, and the
Gandharvas, being pleased with him, gave him an Agnisthali girl
who looked exactly like Urvasi. Thinking that the girl was Urvasi,
the King began walking with her in the forest, but later he could
understand that she was not Urvasi but Agnisthali.
King Pururava then left Agnisthali in the forest and returned
home, where he meditated all night upon Urvasi. In the course of
his meditation, the Treta millennium began, and therefore the
principles of the three Vedas, including the process of performing
yajna to fulfill fruitive activities, appeared within his heart.
When the process of fruitive yajna became manifest within his
heart, King Pururava went to the same spot where he had left
Agnisthali. There he saw that from the womb of a sami tree, an
asvattha tree had grown. He then took a piece of wood from that
tree and made it into two aranis. Desiring to go to the planet where
Urvasi resided, he chanted mantras, meditating upon the lower
arani as Urvasi, the upper one as himself, and the piece of wood
between them as his son. In this way he began to ignite a fire.
From Pururava’s rubbing of the aranis came a fire. By such a
fire one can achieve all success in material enjoyment and be
purified in seminal birth, initiation and in the performance of
sacrifice, which are invoked with the combined letters a-u-m. Thus
the fire was considered the son of King Pururava.
By means of that fire, Pururava, who desired to go to the planet
where Urvasi resided, performed a sacrifice, by which he satisfied
the Supreme Personality of Godhead, Hari, the enjoyer of the
results of sacrifice. Thus he worshiped the Lord, who is beyond
the perception of the senses and is the reservoir of all the
In the Satya-yuga, the first millennium, all the Vedic mantras
were included in one mantra-pranava, the root of all Vedic
mantras. In other words, the Atharva Veda alone was the source of
all Vedic knowledge.
The Supreme Personality of Godhead Narayana was the only worshipable Deity; there was no recommendation for worship of the demigods. Fire was one only, and the
only order of life in human society was known as hamsa.
0 Maharaja Pariksit, at the beginning of Treta-yuga, King
Pururava inaugurated a karma-kanda sacrifice. Thus Pururava,
who considered the yajnic fire his son, was able to go to
Gandharvaloka as he desired.
There are so many stories in the scriptures that you can learn from. This is just one of them.